Your first time is NOT supposed to hurt
You are NOT supposed to bleed
If you bleed, that is NOT your hymen being ‘popped’, it is a tear due to lack of sexual arousal and natural lubrication.
This is all a MYTH perpetrated by men so they don’t have to make sure you are comfortable and sufficiently aroused enough before you have sex with them. It is an excuse to disregard and hurt you.
I just really want women to know this.
I have seen this enough times, not only reblogged by people I don’t know, but reblogged by people that I care about, and I tried to compose a response the last time I saw it appear, and as much as I don’t want to give it the dignity of a response, this makes me so angry.
Fuck this shit. This is all false. These are lies. And they are ridiculous statements.
If you bleed during your first time having penis-in-vagina intercourse, it is natural. Where did the op gather their information from, I wonder? Yes, your vagina is tearing, but that does not only mean that you are not truly sexually aroused or lubricated. Often, the vagina will tear because it is the first time that something is pushing through a small space. While you’re thinking about what flesh does when it stretches for the first time, do some research on hymens for me, will you? Hymens are pretty fascinating. It is an extra piece of tissue that surrounds or partially covers the vaginal opening. Typically, it is pretty elastic and after repeated penetration can return to its original shape or dissolves.
Repeat with me: Stretching skin will sometimes tear, despite the lubrication involved.
So we’ve gone over your average hymen, what about when it varies from the accepted “norm?” Some people’s hymens are thicker than others. Some people have differently shaped membranes. Some people have hymens that have a thicker membrane right in the middle that stretches from one end to the other. You know your septum? The part that makes your nose have two nostrils? It’s something like that, albeit more elastic. This septum can be superficial, right at the vaginal opening, or it can be further inside. (Show of hands here - has anyone experienced something like this? *Hand is raised*) This extra band certainly made it more difficult for me to have sex, and it certainly was not because I was not aroused enough. There are so many variants in so many parts of the human body, so why would the vagina be any different?
I’ve gotten off track here.
The first time that you have sex it may very well hurt a little bit, and you may bleed. It looked like I had birthed a child. You are stretching your skin at a pretty rapid rate, (consider for a moment here: stretching ears), and despite proper lubrication, your skin may experience some tearing. Especially if your hymen is not the perfect thin-membrane half-moon you’ve been (barely) taught it is.
Just stop fucking sharing this stupid-ass post. It is dangerous and dumb to spread such false, other-hating, sex-fearing information. Just … are you fucking kidding me?